Have you experienced being short of words on what to say when visiting a bereaved?
Well, it happens to the best of us. Uttering comforting words when visiting those who have lost their loved ones might be such a herculean task. One of the ways to overcome this phobia is by writing your thoughts as a condolence message.
But if you are not sure how to go about this, we have complied a list of points to consider before writing and delivering a condolence message.
Thankfully, we have simplified the process with these 5 points to make it easier and impactful.
- Let it be an expression of your sincere thoughts. Starting a condolence message could be simple as “Dear Ola, I was deeply shocked to learn about the demise of your mother…” Sincere thoughts bridge the connection between the sender and receiver and the receiver has more time to appreciate the thoughtfulness that comes with the letter.
2. Keep it short and simple. It is a condolence message and not a competitive essay writing. Remember that the receiver might get it either early or later after the loss and might not be in the best frame of mind to read a whole lot. Aim for a 100 words or less.
3. Celebrate the deceased. This is quite practicable if you have a good knowledge of such. You could say, “Ola, I remember your mother was such a nice woman, offering us drinks and biscuits anytime we come visiting.” This has a way of lifting the spirit of the bereaved and console them that the loss is a collective loss.
4. Offer help. Use this condolence message to show you truly care about the bereaved. Find ways to offer comfort or support during this period. This is because many are overwhelmed during this period and would gladly appreciate all forms of help. Consider writing ” Ola, I am free from Thursday to Sunday. I’ll like to use this moment to help you with your laundry and shopping.”
5. Show Up. Especially if you are in town and can make the drive down to the bereaved home. This is so true if you are especially close to the person. It is not enough to call or send a message. Ofer physical comfort. Keep the person company. Talk over issues as much as their grief can take. At the end, the gesture will be well appreciated.
Are you ready to send your first professional condolence message?
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